Author Archives: Carlos Manuel Saraiva

happiness and intimate relationships

“Research on happiness shows that the quality of intimate relationships (especially sexual relationships) is a major predictor of overall life satisfaction—often more important than education, income, or occupational status” – Helen Fisher(Phd):2013


Siddhartha, a brilliant text and a wonderful narration by Satya

The narrator brings a dramatic authenticity to the text, which is itself a timeless classic of wisdom 😉 (as much as wisdom can be communicated)

This is the third time I imbibe Hesse’s presentation of Siddarth’s ancient story. Each time I’m moved and fascinated, even more so I can see how deeply this book has actually affected my life. 

I give this book to those closest to me, it is life changing and meaningful. If you want a story that is mesmerizing and profound, read this book.

Charlie Hebdo, freedom of expression?

The Constitution of the Republic of South Africa, Chapter 2: Bill of rights 16. Freedom of expression.

(2) The right does not extend to (A) Propaganda for war (B) incitement of imminent violence (C) advocacy of hatred that is based on race, ethnicity, gender or religion, and that constitutes incitement to cause harm.

How close did Charlie Hebdo’s work come to infringing on those exceptions?

Not to justify the atrocity, however was it truly ok?

“If our cause is a mighty one, and surly peace on earth these days is the great issue, and if we are opposing the powers of destruction, of annihilation, and working on the side of life, then surely we must use our greatest weapon – the forces of love that are in each one of us. To stand on the side of life we must give up our own lives.” – Dorothy Day 

A symbolic death of the individual egoic self for the greater universal Self dwelling in All? A literal death, killing others in the the process, is surly a reinforcement of the egoic self? And a dehumanizing negation of the forces of love that dwell in All?

What terrorists so clearly miss is that, as Malcolm Gladwell illustrates in his book David and Goliath, when people survive terrorism, such as German bombings of London in WW2, they are liberated from the fear of terror, and become intensely more courageous to brave the battle.

My question remains, can we use our pencils to heal the divide? Undergoing a egoic death. Or do we continue using our brilliant intellects and wits to divisive ends in the name of free expression? 

Ultimately taking responsibility for the harm done against us, grants us the possibility to change the situation. Seeing the pencil in ones own eye, as it were …

© Carlos Manuel Saraiva. 2015

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The Lucifer Effect

“…the line dividing good and evil cuts through the heart of every human being. And who is willing to destroy a piece of his own heart?” – Alexander Solzehenitsyn. 

Here is to celebrating the ordinary Hero

Wow one of the most difficult and meaningful readings I’ve ever experienced.  This is such an important book to understand, especially with the recent terrorist incidents in Paris. 

What most strikes me is my past assumption of evil being something extraordinary and extremely perverse, when in reality it thrives in banal “normality”

© Carlos Manuel Saraiva. 2015

Evil and dissidence